Comments on: Mystery O. Riley

By: Peggy

Peggy — Sat, 05 May 2012 10:55:14 +0000

I lost my son Feb. 8, 2000. He and my daughters friend had just left his dads home. The police report stated there may have been an animal in the road when my son put on the brakes. The left break locked up and pulled the truck in to a deep ditch. The truck hit the culvert and bounced back, and drove it self up on the pavement. Dodge truck with crushed front end caught fire and exploded. The pathologist report revealed they died from the fire. I have never been the same. It is eaiser than it was then, but just can not get going in the right direction. My son had learning disabilities and when he was 12 he was diagnosed with bone cancer. He survived the cancer, but did have to have an amputation. I often reflect on his life and the things he went through before his death, and just never understood why life can be so hard. God has kept me going. The grief is less, but I still think about him every day, it just is not 24/7, like the early days. Thanks to all of you for sharing your grief.

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 15:35:10 +0000

My 3 year old Son Atlie was killed by his father in a murder suicide. His death has left me with so many question, and such deep devastation. How could some shoot their own three year old child? I am hoping for some kind of support or guidance as I am in complete shock. Atlie Dean Haber was killed on March 11, 2012.

By: Jennifer Coulter

Jennifer Coulter — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 06:25:17 +0000

I lost my 29 year old son in the AM of January 21st of this year 2012. We were told that his truck (a 2001 Ford Explorer) left the roadway on Hwy 60 east in McMinn county Tennessee and ended up in the Tennessee River. From what we have been told both Brian (my son) and his girlfriend managed to get out of the vehicle and his girlfriend made it to the river bank, however my son did not. I know for a fact my son was a great swimmer and yet she wont tell us why he didnt make it and she did. The water that night was 45 degrees and she weighs less than 100 pounds he weighed apprx 165 – 170. He had always been athletic while she in the other hand never was. The Meigs county sheriff told us that she had told them 4 different versions of her story in the 90 minutes he questioned her before her family took her to the hospital. The accident was supposed to have happened at apprx 2:30 AM but she wasnt able to get help until 9:45 the next morning. Apparently she walked up the paved road past three houses she could have stopped and asked for help at nut instead she walked further to a Cherokee Museum laid down on a bench in front of the museum and went to sleep. The museum, cureator called 911 when she found her there the next morning. She has been in nothing but trouble since this happened and is currently in jail because she broke probation for the second time. But we still cannot get answers. Although The rescue teams found his body wnile dragging for his vehicle…… to this date his vehicle has not been found. I’m truly at a loss….. never did I dream that I would have to plan a funeral for one of my children neverless having to bargain with a funeral home because my son had no insurance. I have bever been so humbled as I was when I spoke with the Vanderwall Funeral Home. They were awesome. I guess I just needed to vent. Thank you for your blog. I will come back again when we finally hear from the coroners report. Thank you again

By: Elison McAllaster

Elison McAllaster — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 18:43:51 +0000

Thank you for sharing, and I am so sorry for your loss. We lost our son Ricky in a car-wreck almost two years ago. The second anniversary of his death will be New Year’s Eve, and it will be hard to live through.

However, Ricky has shown us signs from heaven that he is okay, things like pelicans appearing in our paths numerous times where they hadn’t before and a roaring puzzle piece that sounds off when it is moved going off frequently when Ricky would have been amused or loving us.

I urge you to try to look toward the positives of your son’s life and hold on the knowledge that he is safe now. You will be in my prayers.

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 23:38:54 +0000

I lost my Son Steven on Sept. 9, 2011 in a tragic car wreck. He had just turned 37 a week before. The pain is still so great that I do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. Every minute of the day I think of him. You always hear that the loss of a child is the worst but you do not truly understand that until it happens to you! You know my prayer has always been Please let me live to see my children grown and that he did. I guess I should have prayed to please take me first too! I have always believed their is a reason for all things but it sure makes me question why would any parent have to go through the loss of a child.

I can not imagine the added horror of not knowing what happened. I still have so many questions. I know I that I will see him again and then I will get my answers.

I have a beautiful Daughter and a Grandbaby that has been my link to sanity through this nightmare!

In Loving Memory of our Children!

By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 20:38:26 +0000

I have often heard the phrase that ‘God only gives you as much as you can handle’ but I lost my beautiful 19 year old son last month and it is unbearable.

By: Bonnie Capriola

Bonnie Capriola — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 05:54:16 +0000

God Bless You Pamela, you just entered a journey no parent ever wants to be on, you are not alone in your pain my dear, hang in there, Love, Bonnie ( mother of Barry, lost Feb.2,2011)

By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 05:50:21 +0000

To All the parents here…Why My Child, a question we all ask. I lost my son Barry, Feb. 2, 2011 to a heroin overdose. He was 25. He was a mentally ill drug addict, its called Dual Diagnosis… Both diseases aggravate each other, he tried and tried and tried to stop using heroin ( he started out abusing pain pills and the addiction escalated), everytime he was clean, his mental health issues would present intensely. Mental health meds take time, dose changes, med changes, etc… He could never get stable before relapse would take over. The drug use made his mental health worse, the mental illness made his drug use worse… It was gut wrenching watching my child caught in this trap….trying to be his advocate and fight a failing system and ultimitely watching that system help kill my child… ( That is a long story). Many times I prayed for God to take him home… seeing your child cry over and over and ask the heavens ” Why was I cursed with these demons?” Over and over seeing him try to detox himself, the vomiting, the diarrhea, the chills….Repetedly taking him to detox units, Psych units…both always trying to shove him out the door to the other….. I thought ALL of that was Hell….But No, Losing him, this is truly hell…. Sometimes I think people think, or they say, He is no longer suffering, as if that makes my pain, his moms any easier…Sometimes I feel selfish, because yes, I am happy his suffering is over…But, But, it does not change….Why My Child… Why?? The pain of this loss is gut wrenching, I feel lost, broken and like I’m living in auto pilot….I have another son, Joey, 19. He is a healthy wonderful young man…He is what keeps me going. I also work for a funeral home, been thru a terrible divorce, and I am accustomed to grief. But wow, losing a child, its The Worst….When Barry was 19, a few years before he became an addict to vicaden and oxycotin, he found God and became completely immersed in learning the bible, and what a witness he was… At 20 he was baptized in a local river. The day he died, when I saw him at the coroners office, I was devastated…I went home and quickly got out his baptism picture…I couldnt believe my eyes… he died in the same shirt he was baptized in. And he had like a 100 tshirts….wow, that moved me. His bible was 4 ft. from his body when he was found, he continued to cling to The Lord and was an inspiration to all who knew him. He had a huge heart and was always there for everyone he loved or anyone who was in need. Even tho he was on disabilitly he would sometimes use his food stamps to buy food for others in need…. My heart is broken, my world will never be the same. I am glad I found this blog, thank you Linda. It is good to know we are not alone. Blessings and Love to all my fellow Mourners. Matters none wether they are 1 or 30…Our babies are always, our babies. With Love, Bonnie

By: Pamela

Pamela — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 03:02:05 +0000

I am so sorry for the loss of your son. My Son Chad was killed last Saturday, 8/13 and there are so many unanswered questions. Still having a hard time believing he is really gone and that I will never see him again.

By: Katrina Paul

Katrina Paul — Mon, 01 Aug 2011 00:43:12 +0000

I was sitting and missing my daughter something terrible, when I was reading on how to cope with the loss of a child. My daughter had not gone missing, but she died suddenly. She was 7 1/2 years old. She was not a sickly child, nor had she been in an accident. I waited for 6 months to get a death certificate that said she died from a heart condition that went undiagnosed. The answer just isn’t sufficient, but I have to suck it up and deal with it. She has been gone for just under 6years and the pain still hurts as it did the day that she died. As many people have tried to say that time heals all wounds. I don’t believe it to be true. As time goes on I’ve learned to manage my pain. I fake it most days to try and make it through them. That can be hard, but at times I even fool myself. I know that she is no longer here in the physical presence, but she lives within my heart. That is something no one can take away. There is nothing like not having a definitive answer. I hope that you one day get the answer(s) that you need for some sense of closure. You will not have complete closure because it was your child. And the question we all ask is, why my child?