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Comment on Mystery O. Riley by Peggy

Peggy — Sat, 05 May 2012 10:55:14 +0000

I lost my son Feb. 8, 2000. He and my daughters friend had just left his dads home. The police report stated there may have been an animal in the road when my son put on the brakes. The left break locked up and pulled the truck in to a deep ditch. The truck hit the culvert and bounced back, and drove it self up on the pavement. Dodge truck with crushed front end caught fire and exploded. The pathologist report revealed they died from the fire. I have never been the same. It is eaiser than it was then, but just can not get going in the right direction. My son had learning disabilities and when he was 12 he was diagnosed with bone cancer. He survived the cancer, but did have to have an amputation. I often reflect on his life and the things he went through before his death, and just never understood why life can be so hard. God has kept me going. The grief is less, but I still think about him every day, it just is not 24/7, like the early days. Thanks to all of you for sharing your grief.

Comment on Butterfly by Degrees | feet2earth

Degrees | feet2earth — Fri, 13 Apr 2012 05:26:08 +0000

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Comment on Mystery O. Riley by Rebecca

Rebecca — Wed, 21 Mar 2012 15:35:10 +0000

My 3 year old Son Atlie was killed by his father in a murder suicide. His death has left me with so many question, and such deep devastation. How could some shoot their own three year old child? I am hoping for some kind of support or guidance as I am in complete shock. Atlie Dean Haber was killed on March 11, 2012.

Comment on Dear Grieving Parents by Lana Golembeski

Lana Golembeski — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 18:20:41 +0000

Jean, I am so sorry for your loss. Losing any child is horrific and it takes great courage and faith to continue. Losing an only child or all of your children is unthinkable. But it happens. My daughter was killed by a 14 year old who chose to disobey the rules of the park. He went off trail to the top of the waterfalls and kicked a 15 pound rock. My daughter was below him. She was killed instantly . The sheriff ruled it an accident when it really was irresponsible behavior. I never ever heard from the family. The boy received no consequences and I lost my only child. All of my dreams have been shattered. But it has been nearly 6 years now. The event falls into the past but the emptiness of losing a child is never far away. But I can feel Alicia’s spirit – she is with me always. I now can laugh again and I can find pieces of joy in my life. All is not hopeless even though we feel that way. Just know you are not alone. We are all hugging you tightly and keeping you in our prayers! Contact me if you wish: zetalana@me.com.

Comment on Dear Grieving Parents by Yvonne Amery

Yvonne Amery — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 04:07:26 +0000

Dear Jean
I read your comments today about the loss of your only child, Kevin. He was so young and to lose him is a terrible tragedy for you and your husband. I know how it is to lose the love and beautiful energy of your son as I lost my boy too last year in a diving accident. In July it will be one year but every day without Tyron is a day without his smile and his funny sense of humour. Your whole life has been changed in the most sad way as ours was too so I do know how it is to feel utterly lost, sad and bewildered by the pain that swamps us suddenly and threatens to rob us of our sanity. My son had three children and each one he called their middle name “Jean”. this was because of his love for my mother whose name was Jean and Jean is also my middle name. Even his son had his middle name Jean. I know no words are adequate to express my shared sadness for your loss of your beloved darling son but I hope I can let you know that your feelings are understood. I tried gathering photos of my son and bought a beautiful album but I only got so far and could not do it any more as his lovely smile just broke my heart so many times but one day I may return and complete it. There are hundreds of photos of his life as he was 37 but we were so close as a family. I did find a book called Solace: Finding your way through grief and learning to live again by Dr Roberta Temes, and that has been helping to make me understand that whatever way we grieve is OK. I find it hard to cry so I find I might cry when I am outside in the garden or just sitting alone in the car. Everywhere we look are memories and the loving thoughts of our sons and I share that with you and your husband. Sometimes I feel I want to go and live away from all that reminds me of Tyron but something keeps me here too. Your son was so young and such a wonderful companion it must be heartache of the very deepest kind and my heart goes out to you. Please know I care very deeply for you and your loss and I pray the loneliness and despair will lift as time goes by. Love never goes away. That is something that helps me to endure through the unendurable pain of loss. Yvonne

Comment on Dear Grieving Parents by Cody'smom

Cody'smom — Tue, 13 Mar 2012 16:41:15 +0000

Thanks for your blog, it’s been seven months since we lost our son and we (probably by the grace of God,as someone said…) have been going on. I can see by the comments that we have a long road ahead with no apparent light at the end of the tunnel. All I say anymore is Why? The pain is so great who can endure this loss of a child? It was hopeful to read that we are not alone on this agonizing journey.

Comment on Happy Burfday to Me! by My Angel, You Are Loved

My Angel, You Are Loved — Sun, 11 Mar 2012 01:44:49 +0000

Not having gone through this form of loss it is hard to imagine. I have become aware of how common child loss is and I continue to grow and learn as a parent, thanks to people like you who are open and willing to share your experience. I am from Washington so this caught my eye. My friends and I also like to say “burfday” and that brought a smile to my face and caught my eye as well. I’m truly sorry for the loss of Owen. I hope you are able to do something special for your burfday. And I also want to thank you for sharing your story and your hope. Sarah

Comment on Happy Burfday to Me! by Rebecca Carney - One Woman's Perspective

Rebecca Carney - One Woman's Perspective — Fri, 09 Mar 2012 15:00:43 +0000

Happy birthday wishes to you. Just got back from Washington myself – we lived there for 25 years prior to the death of our son. A bittersweet time for me, retracing paths we had walked and places we had been when Jason was alive. In some ways, it made me feel oh-so-close to Jason…and in other ways, oh-so-far-away.

Comment on Happy Burfday to Me! by Linda

Linda — Thu, 08 Mar 2012 05:59:06 +0000

Kitty, thank you for the Fleet Foxes music. Not just “Oliver James” but all of it. This is something I miss from the Owen years – new music. Thanks for being a conduit. Have fun at SXSW! I tried to arrange a trip there, but, uh, not this year. Sing your heart out!

Comment on Happy Burfday to Me! by Kitty

Kitty — Tue, 06 Mar 2012 08:23:34 +0000

I think of your son when I hear the song Oliver James by Fleet Foxes. And Candace too. But mostly Owen. Have you heard it? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qpq1kw3MXcE