Comments on: Molecular change

By: Susannah Bogart

Susannah Bogart — Sat, 30 May 2009 20:51:07 +0000

I can relate to this as well. My loss is recent, my son, at 22 on 4/22/09. I feel myself forever changed. And, like sandy said, SO ALONE! I am divorced, my mother died this past Christmas, my brother is just not there for me now, my ex “has a life” and although he grieves, he is not present either.

My friends are overwhelmed, I guess. They feel uncomfortable when I speak of my son, Jim. Most of them, anyway. He may have passed on, but I didn’t get amnesia! His memory will always be alive!

I have to pray each day for strength. I have only God to turn to and now this.

Bless you Linda. I have sent many emails to your email address and know you can’t answer each one, but it is a comfort just to write.

Dear God have mercy on us all.

Susannah

By: writinggb

writinggb — Tue, 29 Jul 2008 13:42:38 +0000

There is much science does not understand. Certainly, they have a long way to go to explaining grief.

By: Sparkle

Sparkle — Tue, 15 Jul 2008 20:14:49 +0000

I SO get this! So many changes going on in my life. From loss, and injury, and family dynamics that constantly evolve (not always in pleasant ways.) Every loss changes us. It both diminishes and increases us. I remember when I was the Moderator on the Grief Board, I wrote a discussion question about death- Loss: Are You More Or Less? We are certainly less because a presence we treasured is gone from our life, and yet we are more for having experienced all the many dimensions of love and loss. We are forever changeed…that much is for sure. Hugs-Sparkle

By: shadowlands1501

shadowlands1501 — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 13:56:30 +0000

Linda,
What an interesting post and I can get my mind around it. Grief does remake you because the loss is a part of who and what you were. How can you ever be the same in any way when someone that you love so much is taken.

My grief cannot compare to a mother’s loss such as yours. The pain of loss of a child especially when mystery surrounds the event can do nothing less that “remake” us on all levels.

Thank you for your expression of sympathy on my blog. You and I are walking a different, but similar path…it is unimaginable to face life again without those who defined us…but, as Beethoven said on his death bed, “Must it be?” and his lost love replied, “It must be.”

By: Cailie

Cailie — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 08:48:29 +0000

Linda-
Thank you, for your comment. Also, for inviting me to the river. As, we know, Owen was wonderful and unlike anyone I’ve ever met.

By: sandy

sandy — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 18:05:12 +0000

omg Linda , I feel your pain & confusions as i walk this journey with you . But the thing to me is , it is so so ALONE no one else seems to GET IT !!!!!!!!!!! THANK -YOU SO MUH FOR YOUR POST. I AM SO SORRY FOR YOUR PAIN BUT I SO GET IT . LOVEYOU BIG BIG HUGS SANDY