Comments on: Messages

By: Author

Author — Fri, 16 May 2008 15:13:21 +0000

Linda,

I love the fact that you found last years Mother’s Day card from Owen and read it at exactly the right time. I think it was meant to be, not by accident.

I have a birthday card from my dear friend who died – it was the last one she ever gave me. She was desperately terminally ill at the time and died a matter of weeks later. In her card she wrote: For this and ALL your birthdays (and then private words). So now I put up her “universal” card every year on my birthday – and always will. It is a wonderful reminder that friendship is forever and death shall have no dominion.

It may be that you could do the same with Owen’s card. Hugs.

PS: I cried when I read this post – I really do understand.

By: Roads

Roads — Thu, 15 May 2008 20:06:39 +0000

Exactly. Video has a special quality which photographs can’t approach. There is movement. There is life.

This song was #1 in England in my first term at university. Even now I can still hear it playing in my mind as I walk out of the beer cellar (or was it into the beer cellar?).

I love the storyline in the song. One message goes out, and a million are returned. So may it be for you, Linda.

By: sparkle333

sparkle333 — Tue, 13 May 2008 06:34:43 +0000

Isn’t it just like Owen to get a message through on this special day? And then to see him on video (even for the eternity of 15 seconds)–what a gift. He was beautiful for sure.
I remember after my father’s funeral, we all went out eat. Then we went back to my mom’s house, and someone put on some family videos. And I thought, “Oh no…I can’t take this. It’s way too soon.” And yet when I heard his voice, and saw him, it was as strangely comforting, as it was painful.
Thinking of you, and praying for you, my friend. Lonnette

By: eltonllin

eltonllin — Mon, 12 May 2008 20:29:12 +0000

wow – thank you for sharing your journey… and for visiting my site as well. there is a sense of comfort reading through other people’s journey. thanks for the kind and gracious words… they mean a lot coming from you. thanks.

By: writinggb

writinggb — Mon, 12 May 2008 15:04:28 +0000

I know what you mean about the difficulty of watching the video. I have hours of tape recordings of my grandma when I interviewed her for the book. I think that is one reason I haven’t been writing. It’s too hard to listen. Still…there’s also something so wonderful about having access to them in this way….

Happy Mother’s Day, Linda.

By: Linda

Linda — Mon, 12 May 2008 07:01:16 +0000

“I know how it ends.” Yep, you can’t look at pictures, or watch videos of them, without thinking just that. Grabs me by the throat, shakes me out of my skin, and leaves me wrung dry. No, I’ll never be wrung dry, as the tears will surely come, with each new memory. I know you know, Kitty.

Happy Mother’s Day. It’s just before midnight here. I hope you and your mother were able to acknowledge your amazing presence in the world of motherhood today. We give, we receive, and we let go. This is our mission, though we would never choose the letting-go part. We simply do, when life serves this sentence.

Motherhood never dies. We’re all mothers on this bus.

By: Kitty

Kitty — Mon, 12 May 2008 06:19:22 +0000

Wow. Amazing post. Amazing messages that just can’t be ignored.

I found a ten second clip of my dad years after he passed. It was so strange. A few months ago I was converting some home videos to DVD and found a really long video of Candace just a day after she was born. All I could think was, “I know how it ends,” and it was so difficult to watch.

Thanks for sharing, Linda, my thoughts are with you and your family.